A prayer for when you’re taking life too seriously.

A prayer for when you’re taking life too seriously.

A prayer for when you're taking life too seriously.

For a long time, I’ve associated play with irresponsibility. Laziness. Something only the elite get to do. I’ve associated celebration with milestones. And until I reach them, I must struggle onward. I’ve subconsciously treated life like it’s some really really serious battle zone or something. And I’ve skipped over enjoying so many beautiful moments because I’m in my head overthinking every damn thing, when instead I could just be laughing.

This shifted in a big way last year on a very special day. I was in a real shit hole mindset. I had just gotten in a serious motor bike accident, had negative funds in my account, and really doubted I’d ever feel better. I hated myself for getting into the situation. I felt hopeless, powerless, ashamed, frustrated, furious with God, basically every emotion I’d told myself for years was off limits…I was feelin’, real deep.

But, I’d planned this celebration with a friend of mine. Just of life. For the heck of it. I wanted to cancel….like BIG TIME wanted to cancel. Who the hell did I think I was celebrating life with the state my life was in? I should be working my ass off trying to make things right.

But I didn’t want to cancel on her, as I was in a time of really starting to only make commitments I had a willingness to keep, no matter what, and I didn’t want to back out on the progress I’d made.

So, we celebrated life. I showed up to celebrate my breath. That I hadn’t died. That there was a beautiful sunset, and that I had a friend who still loved me and wanted to hang out with me even though I had fucked up, royally. My dreadfulness hadn’t scared her away, and that was epic for me to realize.

The next morning, I woke up feeling so much gratitude for our beautiful ceremony and dinner the night before. My heart felt lighter, and I didn’t know how everything would work out, but my renewed sense of life gave me a sense of determination to figure it out. When I opened my email, in my inbox sat a beautiful project opportunity that would cover my living costs for a bit, totally out of the blue, and in that moment I finally understood on an experiential level what choosing joy, no matter what, means. And why it matters.

I could have easily cancelled the celebration and spent the evening in sorrow and despair. I would have awoken with the same heaviness. Same dread of life. Perhaps the opportunity would have arisen the next day, perhaps not, but either way, that evening was only mine to experience once. And I’m so glad I took a few more extra hours of joy time instead of racking up more time in the prison of despair. Because all we’re after in the end is feeling good. And my knowing is that I would not have looked back on that moment saying, “Man I wish I would have pitied myself for a few more hours.”

The greatest thing about life is that we don’t have to have all the answers. We just have to have a willingness to receive them. In whatever form they arrive. So, when you’re not sure how you could possibly find cheer, or are just feeling a little blue and need a pick me up, here’s a prayer that you can offer up as an invitation to let light into your life.

 


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My heart is heavy right now. Heavy with the weight of this moment. I am feeling crippled by the challenges of my life, and I don’t quite see how or when and end is in sight. I honestly admit that I’m tapped out. I’ve been overworked, exhausted, stressed, hopeless, and helpless for too long. And while I don’t want to spend a second more in this reality, I also don’t know the way out of it.

Cheer me up, life.

As I move from this space of heaviness, of burden, of hopelessness, and into a space of willingness, I ask for a guiding hand. I am determined and I am willing to take a new path through this moment – one that meets me with less resistance and more ease. But I pray that a Divine Angel arrive and lead me there. For I know I will not walk toward it alone. And some company would be lovely.

And as I wait for this helping hand to arrive, I choose to laugh. Where I have so often cried, right now, I choose to laugh. Just because. Not at anything or anyone, or perhaps there are a few things and someones to tickle my giggles. Which is perfect. Because right now, I am just going to laugh. Mostly at myself. For getting here in the first place. What a character am I.

As I leap across this great canyon from heavy heartedness to joy, I release all that’s weighing me down so the trip will be easy. And cannot wait to spend more of my life in joy.

I surrender into the space of comfort, of faith, of cheer, and open up to seeing the world as my playground. As a place that always, always, always wants to put a smile on my face. And so again, I smile, chuckle, and laugh.

Dear Life, I thank you for these lessons in light and laughter by showing me what they are not, and I go forth into this moment with a willingness to find the ease.

And so it is. Amen.

In addition to saying this prayer, I invite you to make a list of things that really make you giggle, that make you feel alive, that make you feel younger and more youthful, the things that are so fun, and you never do, you know those things that are “irresponsible” and that you don’t have time for in your busy modern life.

And from this list, I want you to pull out 4 things and put them in your calendar for the next month. Once a week, you’re having a play date. WIth yourself, or someone else, doesn’t matter, as long as the sole intention is to let go and experience your youthful innocence and glow.

This is how you plant new seeds. It actually can be quite difficult to stick to these things, and the mind will find many many many excuses to keep you from actually going, but say your prayer and do it anyway.

You deserve a life of smiles and cheer and days that feel like play – not prison.

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I honor you so deeply for showing up to life every damn day you have. I know it’s not always been easy, or cheerful, but know that right now you can take a breath with a smile. And look up at the sky in knowing that everything out there exists to make you happy.

All my love,

Sarah

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Sarah Miller is author of The Unapologetic You, a sacred space holder, and a speaker. She is currently traveling the world speaking, writing, and holding workshops. To find out when she’ll be in a town near you, be sure to follow her on Instagram and Facebook.

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A prayer for when you lose motivation.

A prayer for when you lose motivation.

I’m curious to know if this happens to you, too…

You’re feeling SO alive. You’re waking up each day with devotion and clarity. You are gliding through life. Your timing and your jokes are ON POINT. Your work is focused, concise, and brilliant. You’re getting asked on dates left and right (or flying high in your relationship with your partner). You’re managing to fit in yoga and working out, and also plenty of play.

And the suddenly…SMACK. It’s like your life has been ripped right out of you. You’re pinned to the floor feeling heavy, dark, and like you’ve been robbed of your light. It’s a struggle to even get out of bed, let alone make your way through life with any amount of chipper sparkle.

This has happened to me a lot. I’ve been faced with many crippling periods of depression. Periods where I had to really convince myself that I wanted to be here. Obviously, I did. Because I’m writing you an email. And obviously you have done the same, because you’re reading this.

Let’s take a moment and honor ourselves for that. For saying YES to more life. To more greatness. Even when we couldn’t wrap our heads around what the point of it all was.

Wow, those moments overwhelm us, don’t they? It’s so dark that you can’t even see a few minutes ahead. The whole, “look for the bright side,” bullshit hurts more than someone taking a dagger and stabbing you in the heart. Intense…but if you’ve been there, I know you can relate.

What I’ve done in these moments is quite simple. I PRAY.

This is number 2 in a series of 6 prayers. (number 1: forgiveness & renewal can be found here) It’s a great prayer for those depressed periods where life just feels hard, periods where you lose motivation, or when you need a little encouragement from something outside of yourself. Or within 😉

 


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Next time you’re really struggling to find your heart and trust the life its giving you, you probably wont want to, but just try whispering this prayer.

Dear life. I don’t know how I feel about you right now. Well, actually, I do know how I feel about you right now: nothing. And yet, everything. And I’m pissed at you for forcing me through this. I don’t know where you’re leading me. I don’t know why this is happening to me. I don’t understand what all of this is for. And quite frankly, I’d prefer not to be here.

But I guess I am still breathing. And clearly, dear heart, you’re still beating. So there’s something to be learned here. So can I ask you a favor, guys?

Can you please remind me of the magic that can exist here? Can you remind me what it feels like to want to smile? Can you give me a direction to walk? And can you please give me something to look forward to along the way?  And can that thing waiting be really beautiful and breathtaking? And can it be a part of my dream come true? That would really help me out a lot right now.

Because this experience is draining me. And I would really like to LIVE again. I’d really like to be able to wake up and smile. I’d really like to be able to walk down the street and feel confident again. I’d like to feel a lightness to my being. I’d like to experience connection with my friends and lovers and family. I’d like to dance and sing and play again.

But like I said, it feels a lot like I’m moving through molasses these days, and so I think I’ll need a little help to get up and get on that path that we’re creating here.The one toward the magic and the sparkle. So can you send me an Angel, a friend, a companion, somebody or something to hold my hand until I feel comfortable to walk it solo?

Thank you. That will really help me a lot. I am so grateful to know that even when it feels like there is a weight on me, I have the capacity to ask for your help, Life, in creating something different. 

I will exhale my breath in this moment, giving it over to you. And as I inhale, I feel that you’ve transformed it for me. You’ve cleared it of a little bit of that blackness. I feel the soft glistening of my innocent and joyful self starting to revitalize the cells of my body, mind and Spirit. I know I am doing all I can just by continuing to breathe. And right now, I let that be enough.

And so it is.

In moments when this has been my daily prayer, I’ve been told to take medication. Everything in my body has always asked me to refuse the suggestion and instead, lean very deeply into prayer. And even deeper into essential oils.

It’s like I always knew there was a teaching in the darkness, as much as I hated it, and so I learned to sit with it. And I’m so grateful for my devout listening, even when it seems hard to do. It’s given me an unshakeable sense of strength that nothing can ever take.

Perhaps you know what I’m talking about. And I trust you do 😉

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All of which will allow you to have a greater sense of confidence in how to work through the dirt and grime keeping you from your inner peace.

It’s not about getting to a place where there are no longer periods of challenge or darkness, that wouldn’t be life, but it IS about getting to a place where every last second becomes a catalyst of grateful surrender and expansion.

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I’m grateful to know that I’m walking this earth with such a courageous warrior like you alongside me, dear.

All my love,

Sarah

 

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Sarah Miller

Author | Sacred Space Holder | Speaker

Sarah Miller is author of The Unapologetic You, a sacred space holder, and a speaker. She is currently traveling the world speaking, writing, and holding workshops. To find out when she’ll be in a town near you, be sure to follow her on Instagram and Facebook.

To find out more about how to work with her one on one, click here.

To learn her pillars of living an unapologetic life of miracles, click here.

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So you’re human. Now what?

So you’re human. Now what?

So you're human. Now what?

Over the last year, I have spent a massive amount of time alone. Perhaps more time alone than all of the alone time of my life up until now compounded. As with all things, we go through cycles. Circles. Circuits. Seasons. And when one is ending and shifting into the next, even if you’re not paying attention, eventually, you’ll know. Temperatures change. Velocities shift. Muscles tire. And what felt comfortable in the prior environment no longer feels good. No longer works. It feels stuffy. Constricted. Itchy. Sweaty. And uncomfortable.

This season of solitude was preceded by 7 years of New York City. People around, always. Roommates, subway companions, street traffic. Constant noise eventually got to me. So, complete 180 into total solitude. Still working on the whole balance thing….

Recently, instead of feeling filled by so much time alone, time to write and deepen my self disciplined yoga and meditation practices, I was feeling depressed and defeated. Instead of showing up to my day feeling excited by possibility, I woke up feeling heavy, drained and directionless. Instead of moving into practices that bring me into alignment with vitality, I began filling my time with aimless scrolling of social media, eating too much, spending money on things I didn’t need, and loads of self pitying and fretting.

All discipline faded. All connection evaded. 

In a moment of self deprecation one afternoon, I remembered something a dear friend of mine said to me once. We were chatting on my Ayurvedic constitution. I am primarily Pitta by nature, which represents the element fire. I shared with him that often I find myself in what could be called a depressed state. He then went on to ask me a few questions, and at the end of them shared with me:

Pitta will often feel depressed when it is not expressing itself, connecting, and sharing what it has to offer with the world. These are the kindling the Pitta fire. Spreading it’s thoughts, love, and light with the world. Hiding and repressing it causes the fire, your essence, to go out. Depression.


BOOM. Yep. Amen. It all clicked. The times when the depression sets in are always the times when I let petty internal dramas of the past get in the way of a present desire to share my light and my joy with the world. Living as a seed, when in fact, I’ve blossomed as a flower.

So, as we must do with our awareness, I turned the recollection into action. I needed to remove myself from the story that I was a struggling solo nomad, and immerse myself into the truth that I was walking a path of connecting with my global community, serving and supporting me every step of the way. What a sacred f*cking GIFT. I made a commitment to stepping away from social media (false senses of connection that leave me feeling empty when I’m not actually connecting) and seeking out meditations, yoga classes, and community events of some sort as often as I could, wherever I was at.

The first place I showed up to after this decision was what I thought would be a silent, 60-minute meditation. Turned out to be a celebration of the beautiful Palm Springs community’s 5 year birthday. Felt perfectly aligned for how things tend to work out in my life. And a similar thing would happen again in the next city I went.

During this first one, however, one of the founding members was sharing his experience on fully immersing himself into the building and growth of this community. He shared that for most of his life, he’d taken the, “just give me some books, some time, a forest, and I’ll figure it out,” approach to life, spiritual understanding, and self actualization.

Mmmmmmm, yes sir. I see myself in you. Keep going….

He kept on to explain that he didn’t truly understand the practices he read and studied until he had to work with other people. What his mind had deemed as unnecessary was actually the missing component to the fullest expression of his growth, self actualization, understanding, fulfillment and lasting joy. The community was the Glue that held him to his dharma, destiny, calling, assignment, personal compass of direction, whatever you want to call it.

Tears welled up in my eyes as his courageous reflection directed me on what my next assignment was. I’d tuned into my personal path. Now was the time for Weaving.

For is within our community that the individual piece of thread and it’s unique pattern find the direction and missing parts that allow it to see how it will eventually become a basket. A basket filled with the fruits of life.

Sitting with this, reflecting on how it applies to living a life of fulfillment, meaning, connection, safety, love, and joy, I have found that there is a simple three-part cycle that, when followed in each moment, allows us to weave ourselves amidst one another without too much tangling or confusion. I see that when one of these elements is not present in my own life, either I cause many knots and tangled messes, create holes, or find myself lying next to the basket wondering what I’ve done wrong.

Connection:

To the Self. To stillness. To the Divine. To people. To nature. To personal direction. Setting aside time daily to cultivate and care for each of these connections in meditation. To see what direction and purpose is present in smiles walking down the street, meaningful conversations, and simple observation of the trees and the sky and the birds and the plants and the food and then natural wonders sustaining all life.

Acknowledging:

I AM a part of that which moves and lights and blooms and breathes all that is around me, and all that around me is a part of me.

Contribution:

Taking this connection and awareness, and turning it into action. Giving freely of the love softness, and inspiration that pours forth. Weaving service to love in the ways in which work, art, forgiveness, time, money, food, presence, love, laughter, compassion, patience, understanding and presence are used each day. Setting aside agendas and self perpetuated ideas of success in favor of asking how to assimilate with the breath. With the heart. With the sun. How to contribute as one with that which gives life – unconditionally.

Acknowledging:

Because I AM a part of that which breathes me, guides me, and keeps my heart pumping, may I give wholly of myself in the name of devotion and grace. I AM fueled by an unlimited supply of light. Knowing I can give unlimitedly of myself and my resources, I ask for direction in how to channel all that I AM to give forth in a way that creates harmony, cohesion, and unity….

Community:

And all that gives needs a place in which to place its offering. Community. That which gives the individual thread a place to weave it’s pattern and become a basket. That which supports. Directs. Laughs. Dances. Connects. Fills. Gives. Expands. And the cycle continues. Wholeness impossible without the delicate dance of the individual connection to a path & a willingness to honor said path in support & union with the given purpose within the community.

The thread becomes the basket. The basket holds the fruits. The fruits feed the hungry.

Acknowledging:

Because I AM that which gives, I AM that which receives. When I AM connected, I AM a part of the whole. I AM a necessary part of this intricate and ever expanding global community. I AM love, I AM needed, I AM useful. I AM here to serve, to teach, and the learn.

I invite you to reflect on the ways in which you may refrain from any or all of the above 3. Or perhaps the ways in which you spend too much time in one area or the other. If you’re like me, perhaps you spend too much time in solo connection. And it is time to shift into active contribution and community. Perhaps you are always within the community, but finding yourself tangled and dried up too often because there is not enough time to connect to the limitless supplies available and know the unique part of the pattern your thread is meant to follow.

Perhaps you are already weaving your Self amongst your community, forming a beautiful basket. Wherever you are at, I honor, love, and thank you for being here.

For being human works best when we’re all devoutly aware of our own individual thread paths. And committed to the Divine weaving amongst one another, without judgement, without agenda, simply in awe of how complex and beautiful and whole our single thread becomes when joined with another.

With the warmest of hugs & truck loads of love,

Sarah

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Sarah Miller

Author | Sacred Space Holder | Speaker

Sarah Miller is author of The Unapologetic You, a sacred space holder, and a speaker. She is currently traveling the world speaking, writing, and holding workshops. To find out when she’ll be in a town near you, be sure to follow her on Instagram and Facebook.

To find out more about how to work with her one on one, click here.

To learn her pillars of living an unapologetic life of miracles, click here.

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