Do NOT accept defeat. EVER.

Do NOT accept defeat. EVER.

Anxiety and depression SUCK. There is literally zero question about this. I don’t think I have ever met a single person who wakes up each day and wishes they will have more problems and more anxiety inducing situations so they can fall into deep bouts of stress and depression.

Well, except maaaaybeeee myself. In my acting days, I used to wake up feeling like sh*t and say, “Oh man, this is soooo gooooood for scene prep.” Presently, whenever I feel anxious or depressed, am in situations where I feel trapped, despite the mental chatter telling me all sorts of woe is me stories, there is always an underlying knowing that growth is happening. There is an excitement that I’m learning something new about myself.

This interaction with these emotions is a key that I think is important to talk about right now in light of everything going on in the world….in the life of Sarah Miller, the pain, the discomfort, the challenge, and hurt have always been serving something greater. They have always been a critical part of the ecstatic process of creating – a process that brings me immense joy.

What do we all ultimately crave? Joy. Connection. Meaning. Fulfillment. Adventure. Freedom. Safety. Ease. These are the only reason we do ANYTHING in our lives. For the hope of reaching the mountain peak of experience – to rise above it all and see ourselves as the hero that we always hoped we could be. The savior. The winner.

So often, on the path of life, we’re struck with unexpected situations that give rise to unspeakable pain. Honestly, in a bit of a side note, get okay with this. Like really, really okay with it. There is literally zero you can control in this experience of life but your internal world.

And when these situations arise, we’re confronted with the anxiety that comes from the possibility that who we want to be is a pipe dream that will never come true because of something within us, or even worse, something outside of us that is completely out of our control. And we’re slowed by depression. And we find ourselves angry, yelling at life.That’s not what was supposed to happen -I’m supposed to be the hero.

This person wasn’t supposed to act like that towards me – I’m nice.
I was supposed to have more money by now – I’ve been working so hard.
I was supposed to have a nicer car by now – I’ve been driving this shit thing for ages.
My waistline was supposed to be slimmer by now.
I was supposed to feel more at ease by now.
I was supposed to have more freedom by now.
I was supposed to be happier by now…..

We accept defeat before the journey is over. Rather than taking the discomfort and using it to fuel us even faster and clearer into what we desire, we shut down and start to numb ourselves.And we find that instant high we’re craving with food. And work. Caffeine and drugs. And sex. And cigarettes. And alcohol. Because they give us that temporary feeling of connection exactly when we want it. Of ease. Of joy. Of freedom. But….

Over time, we have adopted so many habits of instant gratification that they’re no longer giving us a temporary pause to keep going, they’re numbing us and enabling us to stay stuck in the moment of defeat. They let us convince ourselves we’re happy. But you take away or threaten one thing in our delicate concoction of daily devices and we freak….so, obviously, we’re not very happy or free deep down. I only know this because I’ve done it. Time and time again.

Every time I’ve been in this place, I’ve been doing a few things:

  1. making decisions that aren’t fueling what brings me joy – they’re enabling me to temporarily run and hide from dealing. period.
  2. comparing myself and what brings me joy and how I create to other people
  3. accepting defeat, rather that simply taking a pause, and hating myself for giving up

 


 

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So why am I sharing this?

We, every single one of us, CANNOT ACCEPT DEFEAT before the journey is over. In our minds, and in our world. We must commit to releasing the instant gratification devices we use (social media, food, alcohol, sex, drugs, overworking, complaining, etc) to escape, and feel deeply into each moment, whatever it brings, and USE IT to keep on kindling the fire of that something bigger we’re here creating. Learn to use your life and to question what brings about the pain, and not back down until there is a satisfying illumination of the gifts that have been pulled forth.

Now listen, I’ve not been secret about the fact that I’ve struggled deeply with anxiety and depression. I get that the last thing you want to do when you’re depressed and anxious is have someone spewing shit at you about how you can use your feelings. But, I’ve also forced myself to do this time and time again, because I’m stubborn and not willing to give up on what I want. And I am so grateful to myself for this.

I need you to get stubborn right now. Whatever is going on in your life, do not give up on knowing the hero inside of you. Do not let complaining, gossiping, and whining play. Do not. Instead, feel and keep going. Knowing that whatever that hero wants to overcome, accomplish and create….it will. You’re the hero. Keep going.

Do not let your mind tell you that what you want is impossible. That what you need is never coming. Do not, I repeat, do not, accept defeat. The journey is not over. Truthfully, I have given up like….once a day, every day my entire life. But then, I humbly re-approach myself at some point and say, “Okay, fine, will you let me give it one more go.” And do.

So many people often tell me that I’m courageous. And brave. That they could never do what I do. I tell them this is false. They absolutely could. But they just don’t want to. And that’s fine. But don’t lie to yourself about who you are. Don’t play small. You’re a fucking hero on your own path. Own it. Use what you’re given to paint a life that inspires. That elevates. That uplifts. Rise out of your own sorrow and remind those around you that it can be done.

I find the space of rising within myself each day using meditation, journaling, prayer, yoga, breathing in certain ways, chanting, essential oils, and simple daily acts that reconnect me to creation. Because the mind will always step in and say give up. But I’ve seen time and time again that there is a space within myself that is resourceful and always regenerating.

I show up to cleanse out what is no longer needed, and water the seeds of what is growing. I give each moment a purpose – creation. And then I go create. Because there is way too much destruction going on in this world for me to stand back and just watch. Those holes need filling. And I want them filled with kindness. Love. Inspiration. Magic. Writing is my main squeeze these days. We keep each other going. I’ve got some powerful books coming your way. I can’t wait to share them.

And I want you to find your outlet. You don’t need to be an artist to create. Your LIFE is a creation. A canvas that only you get to paint. Don’t let it just be what you see other people painting or telling you that you need to paint. Let it be YOURS. I want you to commit with me, right now, to take any pain, any discomfort, any situations that make you feel trapped and powerless, and turn them into a creation so beautiful it makes you cry. And DO NOT STOP UNTIL YOU’RE THERE.

This is the path that turns those, “I should be happier by now…” moments into, “Holy miracles what a life I’m living.”

You’ll need support along the way. Otherwise, you’ll stop. You need people who can cheer you on in those dark moments when you’re finding the little clues and lights that are necessary to the finished product, but in the moment you’re cursing the treasure map because….”Really?? We had to hide this shit here?! Couldn’t we have put this on a beach in the sunshine with some fruity drinks or something?!”

So, yea. Get support. And get tools to keep yourself in tip top shape. You need those too.

And go. Take your broken heart and turn it into art. Whether the broken heart is coming from what’s going on in the world right now, or whether it’s coming from a past hurt, present overwhelm, or all of the above, we need you. And I promise you, with every cell of my being, that you were born to create magic. The sparkle is embedded in your DNA. Even when you think you’ve given up, you haven’t 😉  

My 12-week course Essentoily You is open and running right now. It’s an immersion that will self-guide you through a complete cleanse & clear out of all that’s not serving you. You’ll be guided to remember how to stand in each moment with grace, radiance, and clarity. Even when it’s challenging, because it will be, there can be clarity and purposeful pause that leads to continued perseverance. You’re going to remember what creation feels like.

If you find yourself always knocked down, delayed, procrastinating, depressed, anxious, overwhelmed, overworked and underpaid and not able to find any sort of meaning or break from life….do what you need to do to get your butt in the course with me.

You showing up and sharing your heart with this world, without inhibition, is URGENT. You creating free book libraries at the end of your driveway. Spending those extra minutes with your friend over coffee. Connecting with old friends because you’re no longer overworking. Nurturing those you love with surprises because you’re more prosperous than ever. Writing that book or movie. Painting that picture. Sharing that story. Whatever it may be. You living from a space of CREATION is critical right now. And this community and I want to support you. And water you. And dance with you as you bloom.

And if you think that’s impossible….well, I challenge you to give it one last go at being possible 😉

Join the Essentoily You community. Click here. I’ve got awesome payment plans.

The first week of content – FORGIVE – this week. And it’s already made me cry a few times this morning

I love you with every fiber of my being. And I’m wholly here to support you on your Holy mission through this world. Just your breathing and going about your day is heroic. Please know that.

Sarah
@sarahmillerme

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Sarah Miller

Sarah Miller

Author | Sacred Space Holder | Speaker

Sarah Miller is author of The Unapologetic You, a sacred space holder, and a speaker. She is currently traveling the world speaking, writing, and holding workshops. To find out when she’ll be in a town near you, be sure to follow her on Instagram and Facebook.

To find out more about how to work with her one on one, click here.

To learn her pillars of living an unapologetic life of miracles, click here.

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A prayer for when you’re taking life too seriously.

A prayer for when you’re taking life too seriously.

A prayer for when you're taking life too seriously.

For a long time, I’ve associated play with irresponsibility. Laziness. Something only the elite get to do. I’ve associated celebration with milestones. And until I reach them, I must struggle onward. I’ve subconsciously treated life like it’s some really really serious battle zone or something. And I’ve skipped over enjoying so many beautiful moments because I’m in my head overthinking every damn thing, when instead I could just be laughing.

This shifted in a big way last year on a very special day. I was in a real shit hole mindset. I had just gotten in a serious motor bike accident, had negative funds in my account, and really doubted I’d ever feel better. I hated myself for getting into the situation. I felt hopeless, powerless, ashamed, frustrated, furious with God, basically every emotion I’d told myself for years was off limits…I was feelin’, real deep.

But, I’d planned this celebration with a friend of mine. Just of life. For the heck of it. I wanted to cancel….like BIG TIME wanted to cancel. Who the hell did I think I was celebrating life with the state my life was in? I should be working my ass off trying to make things right.

But I didn’t want to cancel on her, as I was in a time of really starting to only make commitments I had a willingness to keep, no matter what, and I didn’t want to back out on the progress I’d made.

So, we celebrated life. I showed up to celebrate my breath. That I hadn’t died. That there was a beautiful sunset, and that I had a friend who still loved me and wanted to hang out with me even though I had fucked up, royally. My dreadfulness hadn’t scared her away, and that was epic for me to realize.

The next morning, I woke up feeling so much gratitude for our beautiful ceremony and dinner the night before. My heart felt lighter, and I didn’t know how everything would work out, but my renewed sense of life gave me a sense of determination to figure it out. When I opened my email, in my inbox sat a beautiful project opportunity that would cover my living costs for a bit, totally out of the blue, and in that moment I finally understood on an experiential level what choosing joy, no matter what, means. And why it matters.

I could have easily cancelled the celebration and spent the evening in sorrow and despair. I would have awoken with the same heaviness. Same dread of life. Perhaps the opportunity would have arisen the next day, perhaps not, but either way, that evening was only mine to experience once. And I’m so glad I took a few more extra hours of joy time instead of racking up more time in the prison of despair. Because all we’re after in the end is feeling good. And my knowing is that I would not have looked back on that moment saying, “Man I wish I would have pitied myself for a few more hours.”

The greatest thing about life is that we don’t have to have all the answers. We just have to have a willingness to receive them. In whatever form they arrive. So, when you’re not sure how you could possibly find cheer, or are just feeling a little blue and need a pick me up, here’s a prayer that you can offer up as an invitation to let light into your life.

 


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My heart is heavy right now. Heavy with the weight of this moment. I am feeling crippled by the challenges of my life, and I don’t quite see how or when and end is in sight. I honestly admit that I’m tapped out. I’ve been overworked, exhausted, stressed, hopeless, and helpless for too long. And while I don’t want to spend a second more in this reality, I also don’t know the way out of it.

Cheer me up, life.

As I move from this space of heaviness, of burden, of hopelessness, and into a space of willingness, I ask for a guiding hand. I am determined and I am willing to take a new path through this moment – one that meets me with less resistance and more ease. But I pray that a Divine Angel arrive and lead me there. For I know I will not walk toward it alone. And some company would be lovely.

And as I wait for this helping hand to arrive, I choose to laugh. Where I have so often cried, right now, I choose to laugh. Just because. Not at anything or anyone, or perhaps there are a few things and someones to tickle my giggles. Which is perfect. Because right now, I am just going to laugh. Mostly at myself. For getting here in the first place. What a character am I.

As I leap across this great canyon from heavy heartedness to joy, I release all that’s weighing me down so the trip will be easy. And cannot wait to spend more of my life in joy.

I surrender into the space of comfort, of faith, of cheer, and open up to seeing the world as my playground. As a place that always, always, always wants to put a smile on my face. And so again, I smile, chuckle, and laugh.

Dear Life, I thank you for these lessons in light and laughter by showing me what they are not, and I go forth into this moment with a willingness to find the ease.

And so it is. Amen.

In addition to saying this prayer, I invite you to make a list of things that really make you giggle, that make you feel alive, that make you feel younger and more youthful, the things that are so fun, and you never do, you know those things that are “irresponsible” and that you don’t have time for in your busy modern life.

And from this list, I want you to pull out 4 things and put them in your calendar for the next month. Once a week, you’re having a play date. WIth yourself, or someone else, doesn’t matter, as long as the sole intention is to let go and experience your youthful innocence and glow.

This is how you plant new seeds. It actually can be quite difficult to stick to these things, and the mind will find many many many excuses to keep you from actually going, but say your prayer and do it anyway.

You deserve a life of smiles and cheer and days that feel like play – not prison.

And it always helps to have a little support…cheering you on as you make these radical (yes they are radical) changes along the way!

Enrollment for Essentoily You is open for 6 more days!  And this is an EPIC community of open hearted support, excited and ready to welcome you into its arms.

YOU DO NOT HAVE TO DO THIS ALONE.

If you’re ready to no longer be disempowered by your thoughts and emotions, no longer be thrown out of the game by a single sentence someone says to you, ready to no longer wake up and already feel like you’ve lost it, ready to no longer live trying to make it to the next breath, join me.

You’ll learn how to work with essential oils to bring your emotional and physical bodies into a space of balance. And from this space of total awareness, whatever life throws your way, you’ll be able to navigate through with a deep knowing that miracles are on the other side.

Joyful challenge. Playful growth. Sweet surprise. That’s what life can become.

Click here to join us.

I honor you so deeply for showing up to life every damn day you have. I know it’s not always been easy, or cheerful, but know that right now you can take a breath with a smile. And look up at the sky in knowing that everything out there exists to make you happy.

All my love,

Sarah

Trade a life of seeking to understand for a life of living what you already know.

Click here to join me for a 12-week essential oil immersion.

Sarah Miller

Sarah Miller

Author | Sacred Space Holder | Speaker

Sarah Miller is author of The Unapologetic You, a sacred space holder, and a speaker. She is currently traveling the world speaking, writing, and holding workshops. To find out when she’ll be in a town near you, be sure to follow her on Instagram and Facebook.

To find out more about how to work with her one on one, click here.

To learn her pillars of living an unapologetic life of miracles, click here.

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A prayer for when you lose motivation.

A prayer for when you lose motivation.

I’m curious to know if this happens to you, too…

You’re feeling SO alive. You’re waking up each day with devotion and clarity. You are gliding through life. Your timing and your jokes are ON POINT. Your work is focused, concise, and brilliant. You’re getting asked on dates left and right (or flying high in your relationship with your partner). You’re managing to fit in yoga and working out, and also plenty of play.

And the suddenly…SMACK. It’s like your life has been ripped right out of you. You’re pinned to the floor feeling heavy, dark, and like you’ve been robbed of your light. It’s a struggle to even get out of bed, let alone make your way through life with any amount of chipper sparkle.

This has happened to me a lot. I’ve been faced with many crippling periods of depression. Periods where I had to really convince myself that I wanted to be here. Obviously, I did. Because I’m writing you an email. And obviously you have done the same, because you’re reading this.

Let’s take a moment and honor ourselves for that. For saying YES to more life. To more greatness. Even when we couldn’t wrap our heads around what the point of it all was.

Wow, those moments overwhelm us, don’t they? It’s so dark that you can’t even see a few minutes ahead. The whole, “look for the bright side,” bullshit hurts more than someone taking a dagger and stabbing you in the heart. Intense…but if you’ve been there, I know you can relate.

What I’ve done in these moments is quite simple. I PRAY.

This is number 2 in a series of 6 prayers. (number 1: forgiveness & renewal can be found here) It’s a great prayer for those depressed periods where life just feels hard, periods where you lose motivation, or when you need a little encouragement from something outside of yourself. Or within 😉

 


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Next time you’re really struggling to find your heart and trust the life its giving you, you probably wont want to, but just try whispering this prayer.

Dear life. I don’t know how I feel about you right now. Well, actually, I do know how I feel about you right now: nothing. And yet, everything. And I’m pissed at you for forcing me through this. I don’t know where you’re leading me. I don’t know why this is happening to me. I don’t understand what all of this is for. And quite frankly, I’d prefer not to be here.

But I guess I am still breathing. And clearly, dear heart, you’re still beating. So there’s something to be learned here. So can I ask you a favor, guys?

Can you please remind me of the magic that can exist here? Can you remind me what it feels like to want to smile? Can you give me a direction to walk? And can you please give me something to look forward to along the way?  And can that thing waiting be really beautiful and breathtaking? And can it be a part of my dream come true? That would really help me out a lot right now.

Because this experience is draining me. And I would really like to LIVE again. I’d really like to be able to wake up and smile. I’d really like to be able to walk down the street and feel confident again. I’d like to feel a lightness to my being. I’d like to experience connection with my friends and lovers and family. I’d like to dance and sing and play again.

But like I said, it feels a lot like I’m moving through molasses these days, and so I think I’ll need a little help to get up and get on that path that we’re creating here.The one toward the magic and the sparkle. So can you send me an Angel, a friend, a companion, somebody or something to hold my hand until I feel comfortable to walk it solo?

Thank you. That will really help me a lot. I am so grateful to know that even when it feels like there is a weight on me, I have the capacity to ask for your help, Life, in creating something different. 

I will exhale my breath in this moment, giving it over to you. And as I inhale, I feel that you’ve transformed it for me. You’ve cleared it of a little bit of that blackness. I feel the soft glistening of my innocent and joyful self starting to revitalize the cells of my body, mind and Spirit. I know I am doing all I can just by continuing to breathe. And right now, I let that be enough.

And so it is.

In moments when this has been my daily prayer, I’ve been told to take medication. Everything in my body has always asked me to refuse the suggestion and instead, lean very deeply into prayer. And even deeper into essential oils.

It’s like I always knew there was a teaching in the darkness, as much as I hated it, and so I learned to sit with it. And I’m so grateful for my devout listening, even when it seems hard to do. It’s given me an unshakeable sense of strength that nothing can ever take.

Perhaps you know what I’m talking about. And I trust you do 😉

And if you’re in a space of wanting to feel empowered in the face of a high stress life, anxiety, depression, PTSD, all the mental guck that comes along with living in a world that likes to hand us loads of baggage, I’ve got a super special invitation for you.

Starting mid-August I will be co-leading with Life a 12-week immersion called Essentoily You. In it I will be teaching you how to use emotional aromatherapy alongside:

meditation
free writing
satsang and
tuning in with your body and it’s energy centers

All of which will allow you to have a greater sense of confidence in how to work through the dirt and grime keeping you from your inner peace.

It’s not about getting to a place where there are no longer periods of challenge or darkness, that wouldn’t be life, but it IS about getting to a place where every last second becomes a catalyst of grateful surrender and expansion.

I truly hope you’ll join me & the incredible community of support waiting for you.

Click here and say YES to your aliveness & grace.

If you have any questions about the program, whether it’s right for you, payment plans, or anything of the sort, please email me at sarah@sarahmiller.me and we can set up a time to chat on the phone.

I’m grateful to know that I’m walking this earth with such a courageous warrior like you alongside me, dear.

All my love,

Sarah

 

Trade a life of seeking to understand for a life of living what you already know.

Click here to join me for a 12-week essential oil immersion.

Sarah Miller

Sarah Miller

Author | Sacred Space Holder | Speaker

Sarah Miller is author of The Unapologetic You, a sacred space holder, and a speaker. She is currently traveling the world speaking, writing, and holding workshops. To find out when she’ll be in a town near you, be sure to follow her on Instagram and Facebook.

To find out more about how to work with her one on one, click here.

To learn her pillars of living an unapologetic life of miracles, click here.

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